Many people hold grudges because they think that forgiving someone means you let bygones be bygones, you have to accept people for who they are, and/or let that person back into their life. Some people view forgiveness as being stupid and a sign of weakness. When, actually, forgiving means you are no longer allowing that negativity keep space within your spirit, and it is one of the strongest things you can do. forgiveness has nothing to do with the other person, but everything to do with you.
Forgiving is more about you. It is saying that the situation, or person, that hurt you will no longer hold you back. That person, or situation, will no longer make you angry, fearful, insecure. Not forgiving creates disease within your body. Not forgiving creates blockages; blockages that will prevent you from acquiring abundance. Forgiving means you are moving on with your life. Not forgiving still gives that person, or situation, the power to affect you. Forgiving means you are moving on with your life and taking back control of your life emotionally, spiritually, and physically.
Furthermore, forgiveness does not mean you have to be friends with that person or put you in a situation where it can be repeated (usually when you are trying to seek closure or an apology). To forgive, you don’t need to communicate it to another person, its a self resolution. You don’t need an apology to forgive, and you definitely do not need closure from that person.
Forgiveness does mean that you have acknowledged the act, acknowledged how it made you feel, recognized the lesson (if there was one, and I am a firm believer that there is always a lesson), and lastly, forgiveness is letting go.
So stop taking up company with misery and start hanging out with happiness. Set your soul free, forgive!